I feel like I haven’t taken a moment to simply reflect. I’ve been caught up with myself and worldly things it’s taken a while for me to take a step back.
It took me some time to understand myself. I’m not quite sure I fully do still, but there’s always something new I learn about myself which I’m sure a lot of us do. A recent thing I noticed about myself is overthinking. I never really thought I was the type to overthink things- which I still don’t believe I entirely do, but when there’s a lot of pressure the overthinking devil appears.
If you’re an over-thinker in your everyday life or during stressful situations or when things do not go your way- just stop. It’s not worth it.
That is a lesson I kept learning the last few weeks. I’ve come across situations whether things had not gone to plan, which sometimes were out of my control but all I could do was think “what if” or “why”. Instead, I should have thought about ways to move forward or reflect on the lesson learnt.
We’re not always going to be in that situation whether good or bad. You must have heard that a thousand times. If things do not go to plan or if something bad has happened and you believe it’s your fault that it’s all messed up or you should have said/done something – don’t sweat it. That may sound too simple to say but it’s really not as complicated as you may think it is. It probably was your fault or you probably should have done something a little more, but sometimes things are meant to happen and we cannot control everything. You probably heard the cliche quote “everything happens for a reason”. It probably does and we may just not have found the reason yet. Once we do, I’m sure we will all be laughing at our former self from over-thinking/stressing about those moments.
Think of this life as a test. It’s much better to pass a test after overcoming hurdles than to simply pass without any. The easier route to success would never feel fulfilling. Some may want the easier route to things but there’s no lessons learnt. Once succeeding after all those blood sweat and tears- that’s when success would truly mean something. Does it not?
How else are we going to grow and develop into something great. How else are we going to be the best version of ourselves if we do not go through difficult situations or mess things up which we were not supposed to ‘mess up’. I’m not saying – go and be lazy and ‘mess things up’ and then think that it’s okay because that’s just life- no!. Try your best but if things do not turn out the way you want it to go just know that, as long as you tried your best nothing else matters. Do not overthink. That’s a message I’ve been trying to follow within my own life. It’s more easier said than done but once you start with that message things will get easier and you wont take it hard on yourself and overthink things, because overthinking things is never good for you.
If you got this far, thanks for reading this piece and continue to strive to become the best you anyone had ever seen. Do it for you, not for anyone else. (: